Relationships Outside Marriage
Relationships after commitment differ from relationships before commitment.
Relationships before commitment focus on:
- Personal communication
- Emotional communication
- Talking about the feelings of the woman and the man
- Choosing words
- Eagerness to meet
- Expressing longing
When relationships turn into marriage, the man's thinking changes more than the woman's. Both the man and the woman begin to approach communication out of duty, and communication in order to fulfill the duties of the relationship in which the spouses were raised. The man begins to feel that some needs have disappeared, and the woman begins to feel the man pulling away from her and a change in how he treats her.
The real reason is the social thinking system, which reinforces the emotional and romantic side and the enjoyment of sharing.
It is hard for the man and the woman to return to the emotional personality and the way of communicating they had before marriage, because it is tied to the thinking system. This produces psychological and emotional frustration, and weariness with the relationship.
The feeling of frustration turns into anger and agitation, and leads to a reaction of seeking compensation, or being affected by the party who is falling short, who then begins to look for feelings outside the marriage. This is the main reason behind the emergence of marital infidelity.
