The importance of repairing communication within relationships means that you communicate from your side before asking the other party to do so. Dealing positively with communication is the condition for starting to communicate.
And if you do not take the positive initiative, we will not arrive at a satisfactory outcome.
The idea of resolving and getting rid of disagreement, or of feeling satisfied with the relationship, requires that you first put effort into thinking about your own state and your readiness for a solution. If you are not ready, you will not reach a solution. The real solution springs from the effort you make when communicating, and when you are in a good state inside, you can rely on yourself in communication. What matters is that you truly want, within yourself, to put in the effort, because you are the one who will repair communication from your side, and through your positive communication you will begin to build a relationship again.
There are matters you need to review within yourself, important matters you need to address inside you, namely: your anger, your upset, your irritation, your distress, your insistence.
These matters are what prevent you from communicating positively and prevent the other party from taking the initiative. Your energy lets you reach understanding, whereas otherwise your communication immediately turns into disagreement.
You need to acknowledge that your positive communication is the solution, whatever the cause of the disagreement, even if it was the shock of betrayal.
